Isn't it funny how defensive you can get when someone else makes critical assessment of some atribute you have (or don't have)? You know you have it, everybody who knows you knows you have it, and you go along living with it just fine until someone gets in your face and tells you what they think about it.

I have very pale skin. I'd probably think nothing of it; probably be just fine with my pale skin if kids at every age level growing up hadn't made fun of me and my pale skin. Now I am 39. I do not wear shorts, let alone bathing suits. Why? Am I a fat cow? Do I have leprosy? No, I am pale.

What's worse than having this happen over some physical thing? Having this happen over some emotional thing.