I have looked this word up at www.dictionary.com.

I have never liked this word very much.

It's a lot like shall, only with more duty, necessity, obligation, even guilt perhaps.

I should do more of this, less of that. I should be something, someone slightly other than I actually am.

Whew, how old do you have to be to get OK with who, what you really are? What kind of spectacles does one need to see what really IS, instead of what you wish were so?

My husband and I are, well, particular people. We like some things just the way we like them. We regularly get caught up in details as if they were biggies. Right now we happen to know some people who are REALLY going through some biggies, and it makes our little stuff stand out as just that: little stuff. Man, I'm blessed. I breathe it in; I breathe it out. I try to get the message deep down into my bones.

No need to should on each other. No need to should on ourselves. It is mostly little stuff after all.

Put that in your pipe and smoke it.